How to Stop Chasing Happiness and Start Creating It

Happiness is often seen as something to be pursued — something just beyond our reach. We tell ourselves that we’ll be happy when we get that promotion, find the perfect partner, or buy that dream home. But what if happiness isn’t something to chase but something we can actively create in our daily lives?

We tell ourselves that we’ll be happy when we get that promotion, find the perfect partner, or buy that dream home.

This article explores why chasing happiness is a flawed approach, how to shift your mindset, and practical strategies to cultivate lasting happiness.

The Problem with Chasing Happiness

1. The “I’ll Be Happy When” Trap

One of the biggest reasons people struggle with happiness is the belief that it comes from external achievements. We think that success, money, or relationships will bring us lasting happiness. While these things can contribute to well-being, they often provide only temporary satisfaction.

For example:

• You get a raise at work, but soon after, you start wanting more.
• You move into your dream home, but the excitement fades as you adjust to it.
• You start a new relationship, but over time, the initial thrill diminishes.

This cycle — known as the hedonic treadmill — keeps people in a constant state of…